It’s been an interesting/rough/educational week to say the least. Last night I started re-reading one of my favorite books called Captivating by John and Stasi Eldredge. I’m not sure how to describe my relationship with this book except that it explains exactly what my heart feel and helps me trust in God’s plan more. It’s a good read for females especially but males could learn something from it as well. It is a companion to Wild at Heart by John Eldredge (which I have yet to read).
Well, I just wanted to share a few quotes from the first chapter that will hopefully pique your interest to read the book or at the least make you think about yourself or others.
- “The mystery of the feminine heart was meant to be a good thing, by the way. A source of joy. Yet it has become a source of shame– women almost universally feel that they are ‘too much’ or ‘not what they should be.’ And men tend to pull away from the deeper waters of a woman’s soul, unsure of what they will find there or how to handle it.”
- “How can I become a strong woman without becoming harsh? How can I be vulnerable without drowning myself in my sorrow?”
- “After all, if we were better women– whatever that means– life wouldn’t be so hard. Right? We wouldn’t have so many struggles; there would be less sorrow in our hearts. Why is it so hard to create meaningful friendships and sustain them?…We feel unseen, even by those who are closest to us. We feel unsought— that no one has the passion or the courage to pursue us, to get past our messiness to find the woman deep inside. And we feel uncertain— uncertain what it even means to be a woman; uncertain what it truly means to be feminine; uncertain if we are or ever will be.”
- “We think you’ll find that every woman in her heart of hearts longs for three things: to be romanced, to play an irreplaceable role in a great adventure, and to unveil beauty.”
- “Sometimes the idea of living as a hermit appeals to all of us…Our lives were meant to be lived with others. As echoes of the Trinity, we remember something. Made in the image of a perfect relationship, we are relational to the core of our beings.”
- “It’s not just the desire for an outward beauty, but more– a desire to be captivating in the depths of who you are. Cinderella is beautiful, yes, but she is also good. Her outward beauty would be hollow were it not for the beauty of her heart.“
- “A woman in the presence of a good man…loves being a woman. His strength allows her feminine heart to flourish. His pursuit draws out her beauty. And a man in the presence of a real woman loves being a man. Her beauty arouses him to play the man, it draws out his strength. She inspires him to be a hero.”
I hope you find the book and take time to read it. Maybe sometime in the future I’ll give more thoughts about what these quotes mean to me.